definitely wouldn't change it. It's just extra difficult, because I only see the girls at dance, and the 'socialization period' is very short; before and after dance for maybe 10 or 15 minutes at the most. How do I become 'involved' with these girls' lives? How do I make friends? It is really difficult for me, because I am very shy. I know that being shy can be taken the wrong way sometimes. What if they think I'm stuck up? What if they think that I think I'm better than them? I don't want that at all. I just want to be friends with them. I'm really, really trying to create conversation, but what do I talk about? What do we have in common besides dance and skiing? I don't know. I'd like to ski with them, but most of the girls don't ski where I do. I try to smile, say 'hello' and 'goodbye', wave, make friendly gestures. My mom keeps encouraging me to be friendly, and talk, but it's just so hard. It's so hard to figure out how to break the barrier. 3.07.2013
Breaking the Barrier
definitely wouldn't change it. It's just extra difficult, because I only see the girls at dance, and the 'socialization period' is very short; before and after dance for maybe 10 or 15 minutes at the most. How do I become 'involved' with these girls' lives? How do I make friends? It is really difficult for me, because I am very shy. I know that being shy can be taken the wrong way sometimes. What if they think I'm stuck up? What if they think that I think I'm better than them? I don't want that at all. I just want to be friends with them. I'm really, really trying to create conversation, but what do I talk about? What do we have in common besides dance and skiing? I don't know. I'd like to ski with them, but most of the girls don't ski where I do. I try to smile, say 'hello' and 'goodbye', wave, make friendly gestures. My mom keeps encouraging me to be friendly, and talk, but it's just so hard. It's so hard to figure out how to break the barrier. 
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I am pretty much in the same situation as you! I just started in a homeschool PE and am making some firends but it is hard to make friends! I think of you as an online buddy too! :)
ReplyDeleteFlower
It is really hard to make friends. What's homeschool PE? It sounds like a good way to get to know people! I'm glad you think of me as a friend, too! :D
DeleteI can relate to this so much. Although I've lived in the same house my whole life, in 2011 I had to switch schools. I was fine then, but this year there were tons of new people, and it seemed like they all knew each other and became friends right away. It was hard for me to talk to them, because I had no idea what to say. I was called shy, and quiet for so long, but eventually I just had to put myself in there. Now I can pretty easily ask questions and tell them things about my life. Don't worry, just try hard, talk to God, and things will get better.
ReplyDeletexx emma
Switching schools sounds really difficult. Thank you for your advice. :) I just don't want to make them feel uncomfortable. What if they don't want to hang out? Ugh. It's so difficult. Again, thank you for your advice! :)
DeleteI know, getting to know people is super tough, especially if they already have their own 'groups'. My swim team is very tightly knit, and sometimes that's tough for new people. But hang in there! Maybe talk to them at dance, and just ask them about themselves. Haha! Yes, if you must know I HAVE played the 'what's your favorite color' card. :P Sometimes it takes time. I'm sure anyone would be glad to have you for a close friend!! Sorry this comment is so long. :P Hope I helped a little,
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Mels
When they already have their groups, it is so hard! Asking them about themselves is a good idea. Thank you so much for your complement. :) You are so sweet! I wish I could meet you in person. :) I love your long comments! Not to worry!
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